How to Build Intimacy & Keep the Love 100% Alive

Yes, intimacy includes enjoying sex with each other, but no, it’s not just that! But yes, it is indeed essential to maintain a relationship. Do you want to keep the chemistry to sparkle? Do you want a relationship that stays strong even when going through rough patches? You wish to grow old together and still feel butterflies in your stomach? Then you need to invest more in fostering intimacy on a deeper level.

What is Intimacy?

Intimacy is a sense of closeness and togetherness. It tears down the barrier between two people and is a way to synchronize. For a relationship to thrive, you need to build intimacy in many aspects, such as:

1. Physical Intimacy

Yes, physical intimacy includes sexual activities, but it’s not just about how to enjoy having sex with each other. It is also about how you feel safe when getting hugged, how you find comfort in leaning on each other, and more. Couples with a healthy level of physical intimacy also don’t feel insecure about their bodily imperfections, or at least they’d be comfortable enough to discuss their physical insecurities.

2. Emotional Intimacy

Probably the most fundamental aspect in a relationship, emotional intimacy includes the way you understand and respect each other’s feelings. In a healthy relationship, you should feel safe enough to share your fears and trauma. When you receive good news, you would want to share it with your partner because you know they will be as happy as you are.

3. Intellectual Intimacy

Intellectual intimacy is about how your minds align with your partner’s. You don’t need to agree on everything, but you should understand each other’s thought process. In a relationship, both people should feel free to share perspectives, even the weird and random ideas without getting judged.

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4. Experiential Intimacy

As a couple, you should continue to experience things together. It should also be your natural instinct to want to share your recent experience with your partner. You don’t want your relationship to fall into a roommate situation where you live in the house but are too busy to actually spend time together.

Why Intimacy Matters

Being in a relationship means being a life partner, hopefully till death do us part. Both of you are supposed to be in sync with every part of your lives, and you wouldn’t be able to do that if you don’t feel closely connected with your partner. Losing intimacy wouldn’t right away cause an end to your relationship, but you will sense how it gets weaker by these signs:Feeling lonely even when your partner is right beside youArguing and conflicts are getting too intense and drainingYou have something on your mind you wanna share, but are not really able to. You stop thinking about your partner’s wellbeing and happiness, as you also feel vice versa.

The most common problem in intimacy is how it sometimes fades gradually over time. Couples tend to be passionate toward each other in their early relationship, but they slowly drift apart later on. Maybe each of you got busy with work and house chores, so you have less time and energy to connect with each other. Some couples also fall into safe routines, so they tend to overlook the needs of getting intimate.Being busy or overwhelmed with life routines and responsibilities should not hinder you from fostering intimacy. Instead, it should be the reason to put extra effort. If you can’t make a full day to be together, allocating just a few hours a week will do, as long as you keep doing it every once in a while.

Ideas of Intimate Activities

You can’t pick one aspect of intimacy to invest in while ignoring the others. That’s not how intimacy works. Everything is interconnected and influences others. And most importantly, it takes two to tango, so both of you should make the effort in this. Fortunately, these activities below are effective to build intimacy in several aspects at once!

1. Bathtub Talk

Quite similar to pillow talk, but in a bathtub. Soak together, and enjoy the physical closeness, but don’t focus on that alone. Get experiential with a new aromatherapy candle or scented bath bomb. And of course, do a lot of talking. Talk about your days, your dreams, your emotions, and maybe even the items on your shopping wish list.

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2. Cooking & Picnic

A picnic requires planning, and cooking requires preparation. That’s the intention, a key to successful intimacy building. You discuss where and when to do it, and what to pack, which means you foster intellectual synchronization. There’s also cooking and enjoying the view together for a bonding experience.

3. Memory Lane

If your relationship has been rather long, then it will be nice to sit together and walk down memory lane. Scroll through old photos together, and bring back all the sweet memories. “Oh my God, you look so different back then!”, “Waaah we need to buy that ice cream again, it’s been so long!”. This activity will bring back the intimacy you used to have, and you will be eager to rebuild it even stronger.

4. Random Escapades

For some couples, the comfort zone is actually the dangerous zone where intimacy starts to get ignored. Therefore, maybe take a risk together by taking a getaway together doing something that you don’t normally do. Take a painting class together, enroll in a beekeeping training, or maybe try that trending cold plunge treatment. Even if you end up disliking the activities, you’d get to experience them together. Just make sure to discuss how you feel and think about it.

5. Hotel Daycation

Having a staycation may sound effortless, but it can be so effective if you are intentional in making it worthwhile. Agree on no-device, so you can be completely present. Explore the hotel’s facilities together, but also spare some time to be just the two of you in the room.

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Where to Stay for Building Intimacy

Dedicating a day to building intimacy with your partner will work even better with a hotel stay. No distractions, no burden of cleaning up, and the extra comfort will help you to focus solely on the closeness between each other. Not having all day and night? Just opt for hourly rates!

Here are some of your best options in the city:

1. Sunway Putra Hotel KL

When you don’t have the time to prepare your romantic escapade, just go to Sunway Putra Hotel KL. It’s adjacent to a shopping mall, so you can buy everything spontaneously – bath salt for tub soaking, some snacks, and wine, anything! The hotel room boasts a top-notch elegance, setting just the right mood to grow intimacy. And you’ll also be amazed to be at the swimming pool area. It’s so large and surrounded by trees, like an oasis!

Rate: From MYR 230 / 6 hours

Hotel Features: Outdoor swimming pool, children’s pool, fitness centre/gym, 2 restaurants, bar/lounge, room service, concierge, business centre, meeting/banquet facilities, luggage storage, dry cleaning/laundry service, valet parking, self-parking, rooftop terrace, poolside bar, children’s facilities

Address: 100, Jalan Putra, Chow Kit, 50350 Kuala Lumpur, Wilayah Persekutuan Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia (Google Map)

2. INNSiDE Kuala Lumpur Cheras

If you wish for a staycation that feels fancy but not in that typical beige classy style, you’ll love INNSiDE Kuala Lumpur Cheras. It boasts a unique aesthetic with a dynamic sense and a vibrant spirit, exactly what you need to reignite the sparks and intimacy in your love life. Rooms are highlighted with bold colors, bathtubs with contemporary shapes, and curvaceous swimming pools on the rooftop with magnificent city views.

Rate: From MYR 120 / 3 hours

Hotel Features: Outdoor swimming pool, children’s pool, 24-hour fitness centre/gym, restaurant, café, bar/lounge, room service, concierge, luggage storage, dry cleaning/laundry, hair salon, convenience store/shopping on-site, meeting rooms, banquet facilities, self-parking, airport shuttle (surcharge)

Address: N-G01, Eko Cheras No. 693, 55100 Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia (Google Map)

3. Berjaya Times Square Hotel Kuala Lumpur

A five-star hotel like Berjaya Times Square Hotel Kuala Lumpur will never run out of options to offer you opportunities to build intimacy. The lavish and spacious room with extra-large windows overlooking the city, you’ll get it all. Fine dining restaurants and swimming pool lounge with a landscape that brings tranquility? All checked too! Standing at the city center, you can easily find many options to try new things together around there.

Rate: From MYR 187 / 7 hours

Hotel Features: Outdoor swimming pool, fitness centre/gym, spa, multiple restaurants, bar/lounge, room service, 24-hour front desk, concierge, business centre, meeting/banquet facilities, free Wi-Fi, luggage storage, dry cleaning/laundry service, valet parking, shopping mall access, kids’ facilities

Address: Berjaya Times Square, 1, Jalan Imbi, Hotel, Bukit Bintang, 55100 Kuala Lumpur, Wilayah Persekutuan Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia (Google Map)

4. Dorsett Kuala Lumpur

A sofa by the full-width window would be a pleasant place to sit down, lean towards each other, and have a deep talk. Taking your intimate staycation at Dorsett Kuala Lumpur will give you just that, and even a lot more. The luxury interior all over the place adds a romantic sense, making things easier for you to reconnect with the love of your life. With its location in the golden triangle of Kuala Lumpur, you’ll find it so easy to explore great spots to experience together.

Rate: From MYR 153 / 8.5 hours

Hotel Features: Outdoor swimming pool, fitness centre/gym, spa, restaurant, café, bar/lounge, room service, concierge, meeting/banquet facilities, business centre, free Wi-Fi, parking

Address: 172, Jln Imbi, Pudu, 55100 Kuala Lumpur, Wilayah Persekutuan Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia (Google Map)

5. Sunway Velocity Hotel Kuala Lumpur

Staying in for getting intimate would feel lovely in Sunway Velocity Hotel Kuala Lumpur, thanks to its leafy aesthetic that makes the room feel so alive yet heart-warming. Stepping up to the infinity pool area, there’s a magnificent view of the city to enjoy by lounging beneath an orange parasol. It’s also nice how this hotel is adjacent to a huge shopping mall, allowing you to do more things to enjoy together at the hotel.

Rate: From MYR 227 / 8 hours

Hotel Features: Outdoor swimming pool, fitness centre/gym, spa, restaurant, café, bar/lounge, executive lounge, 24-hour front desk, concierge, business centre, meeting facilities, luggage storage, free Wi-Fi, parking

Address: Lingkaran SV, Sunway Velocity, 55100 Kuala Lumpur, Wilayah Persekutuan Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia (Google Map)

Intimacy is fundamental in nurturing a relationship. Once again, you need both the intention and effort to foster it. Many ways to do so, and many hotels are ideal for those. Just pick one you like the most and get on with your romantic moment!

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